The Stress Effect

I wasn’t clear as to whether or not we are supposed to list the top 10 stressors in the book or are opinion of the top 10 stressors on family. I agree with the top 10 stressors in the book and so I am going to use them. They are as follows:
1. Economics- A families socioeconomic status effects children on multiple different levels. Briefly they include: the kind of education the child receive, they type of activities they are involved in, the clothes they wear, the food they consume, they possessions they have, the quality of their environment (neighborhood, home, school), their self-esteem, and the way the view the world.
2. Children’s Behavior- The way the child behaves will affect every aspect of their personal life. How they are treated by their parents, teachers, and peers, whether or not the succeed in school and life, their self-esteem, their safety, their education, their activities, and opportunities.
3. Insufficient Couple Time- When parents do not get adequate time to bond it put strain on the relationship and consequently the children. They may be more apt to fight and misunderstand each other, putting stress on them and their kids.
4. Lack of shared responsibility in the family- When each family member is not contributing to the family it often result in conflict and high stress. Either one parent is overly committed and overwhelmed therefore has a short temper with the kids or the kids are not contributing as they should, doing chores and what not and so they do not learn how to take responsibly. Also arguing will often happen creating turmoil.
5. Communicating with Children- Many things can go wrong without proper communication. Children will not know what is expected of them, therefore getting in trouble for not meeting expectations. Children may feel lonely and excluded. Children may not understand why they are being punished and so they do not correct the punishable behavior.
6. Insufficient “me” time- Not sure who is not getting sufficient me time the child or the parent. If the parent is not getting their own time then they will have a shore fuse. If the child is not getting their own time they may feel suffocated, and may not have time to find their identity, and express themselves creatively.
7. Guilt for not accomplishing more- If a parent or child feels this way they may become depressed or give up with the attitude of “what does it matter?”
8. Spousal relationship- If the relationship is suffering or just not as good as before it can lead to divorce, cheating, and depression which will obviously affect the child in a huge way.
9. Insufficient family play time-If the family is not able to bond together and experience having fun together and not just the business of everyday life they will fall apart. If they are not close and do not understand each other than their will be more disorder amongst them and less of a support system.
10. Overscheduled Family Calendar- It is unhealthy to not have breaks and family time or me time.